Well Being

Getting Through The “Rough Days” With An Alzheimer’s Parent

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“I have learned that Mother no longer knows what she’s putting others through,” remarked a caregiver. “So I find I have to stand up for myself or I’d be hospitalized.”

She mentioned this as one way to get through those rough days.

As I read this and thought back to those days of caring for Mother and Auntie, I realize that most of the time as they advanced into Alzheimer’s, they may not have known what they were putting others through either. Both were caring women, concerned about others, and this somewhat disappeared for awhile at one stage of Alzheimer’s.

In the process of learning more about Alzheimer’s, I had to remind myself that, as frustrating as Mother and Auntie could be at time, they were trying to adjust to a whole new, strange world where they were no longer in control. It was a world none of us could abolish, so we all had to adjust.

Getting through the “rough days” isn’t easy. But realizing they aren’t striking out at us, but the situation or someone they no longer know, may help to take it less personally.