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Does Marriage Kill Romance? A Hopeful 40% Say No

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Just in time for Valentine's Day, a new national survey renews our hope in the institute of marriage. Of the couples questioned, a whopping 40% who had been married at least 10 years said they remained “very intensely” in love with their partner. Awww.

The study, conducted by social psychologists at Stony Brook University and Harvey Mudd College will appear in the March issue of the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science. In here, researchers sought to determine whether long-term romantic love was just a fairy tale as many of us have been inclined to think. But they were surprised to find just the opposite.

According to the responses, 40% of women and 35% of men said they were still madly in love. The reason for these long-term love affairs? Couple were more likely to think positively about their partner. They tended to think about their partner more when they were apart. And they reported more frequent hugs, kisses and, yes, even sex.

Long-term romance was also associated with having mutual interests and hobbies and an overall general happiness towards life. The two things that don't matter when it comes to staying in love? Education level and money. All of which is interesting because money is one of the top things that couples fight about according to many studies.

Arthur Aron, a social psychologist at Stony Brook University and one of the authors of this study said the secret to keeping the romance alive is knowing that marriage doesn't have to be boring.

The idea is we don't have to assume that it's just going to be serving the oatmeal to each other. There is actually a possibility that it's not just a fairy tale, that there are people that live happily ever after. Some people actually do it.

Isn't it nice to know that true love really can last? On Valentine's Day no less.

 

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