16 Ways You May Be Self-Sabotaging Your Own Relationships

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Are you someone who seems to date a lot but can’t ever solidify a long-term relationship? If so, it's time to face the truth that you might be self-sabotaging your own relationships. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but when you’re having trouble nailing down a solid relationship, you might have to start looking at what you could be doing wrong, instead of hurling all the blame at the other person (something we all do from time-to-time).

Of course, it might not always be your fault. You could just have horrible effing luck when it comes to love. However, you also might be inadvertently putting yourself in romantic situations where things are doomed from the get-go. It's the worst to get really excited about someone and then see them slip right through your fingers. It sucks. It's life and yet, if it can be prevented — we should try to avoid the feeling, right?

It’s entirely possible that you’re just dating the worst people. However, there could be a much bigger issue here that you need to acknowledge. Take a step back and look at your relationships from a different perspective. Then determine if you’re guilty of any of these things that could be major giveaways that you’re self-sabotaging your own relationships.

1. You Go Too Hard Too Fast

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Being in a new relationship is super exciting. We all know the feeling. You get butterflies, you’re giddy to see them and honestly, you want to see them all the time. While this is normal, you also can’t always act on your impulses, babe. Spending too much time with someone too fast and coming on way too strong will either a) freak out the person you're with or b) they'll do the same and you'll burn out too quickly. Good things take time, so start by wading into relationship waters instead of jumping into the deep end the first moment you get.