Relationship Anxiety Is Definitely Real, But Here Are 7 Ways To Overcome It

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Relationships can sometimes feel like a never-ending rollercoaster of emotions. Even the happiest couples can have their fair share of ups and downs. But if you're in a relationship and find yourself constantly questioning whether your partner really loves you or not, that could be a huge sign that you have some kind of relationship anxiety. Yes, it's a thing. So what is it and what can you do about it?

“Relationship anxiety takes many forms and rears its head differently for everyone with one common thread,” Lisa Concepcion, Relationship Transformation Expert and Founder of LoveQuest Coaching™ tells Alloy. “It's a fear-based emotion.”

A recent study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that your anxiety could be hurting your relationship without you even realizing it. Essentially, people who have higher levels of anxiety tend to have more conflict within their relationship. In many instances, individuals with anxiety had a tendency to feel like their relationships were unstable. They felt they weren't receiving consistent care and affection from their partner. In order to overcome it, researchers concluded that couples need to be more aware of each other's feelings by being openly honest with each other. Easier said than done, right?

While anxiety is different for everyone, Lisa says it's typically caused by fearful thoughts of the future. “We all have negative thoughts from time to time,” she says. “But the key is to be mindful of them so you can pivot to better serving solution-focused thoughts.”

So, if you constantly find yourself having anxiety over things like your partner's true feelings for you, the current state of your relationship, or what's going to happen for you both in the future, here are some things you can do to help overcome your relationship fears: