Dating can be tough and when you fall hard for somebody, occasionally your judgment can be a bit clouded. Are you misinterpreting things? Sending the wrong signs? Should you keep putting energy into a relationship when things get bumpy or just throw in the towel and breakup? A healthy relationship can be one of the greatest things in the world and definitely worth it. You should be able to trust each other, help each other grow and be there for each other. Don't take love lessons from your favorite TV shows; we all know that is a disaster waiting to happen, but if you are curious if you are in a healthy relationship, these 17 traits are sure signs you're in a healthy relationship.
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It is easy to get lost in a relationship, especially when you fall head over heels for your love. It is okay to have separate interests, groups of friends and do things solo from time to time. By maintaining your own identity and sense of self, you are being true to the person that your significant other fell for and keeping the things in your life that make you happy as individual.
Having a healthy discussion, whether you agree or disagree with your partner, is a sure sign you are in a healthy relationship. Discussing your feelings, beliefs and opinions on things help you to understand your partner and develop a sense of respect for each other.
Trust is such a big part of a healthy relationship. If you cannot trust your partner, what is the point? Spending all of your time worrying about who they are talking to, what they are doing or what secrets they are keeping from you is not healthy. You have to trust yourself and your partner knowing they respect you enough to treat you how you deserve to be treated. The only secret they should keep from you is your birthday present.
A surefire sign that you are in a healthy relationship is if you can be honest with each other. By sharing your feelings with your SO, there won’t be any chances that you are on two separate pages on the direction of the relationship or misinterpreting feelings when you are really seriously pissed off at them.
Aretha Franklin said it best. R-e-s-p-e-c-t. In a relationship, you both need to be able to respect each other’s values, wishes, interests, bodies, feelings… you name it, you should be respecting it. Respect is such a HUGE part of a strong, healthy relationship and without it, your partnership is not a partnership at all.
What your partner did before they met you is in the past. It is not the present or the future, but the past. It happened prior to your relationship together and it should be accepted, whether it is good or bad and there should be an understanding that the past stays there. Having a healthy discussion about each other’s pasts early on in a relationship is a good way to get everything on the table.
You should never be shaming your partner for their past sexual relationships or judging something they did years ago. All that matters is who they are now and how they treat you.
Way back when, your mother taught you some magic words, “please” and “thank you.” While those phrases are still great to hang on to, letting your partner know you care for them or maybe even love them is a healthy part of a relationship. Life is short, let them know you care.
Growing as a person is something we all do and it is a definite positive thing. In a healthy relationship, you encourage each other to grow individually in all aspects of each other’s lives. Whether they are pursuing a new career, seeking a promotion, tackling a new hobby or training for a marathon knowing that you are their biggest cheerleader is key.
If you think your partner is trying to stifle your growth because they're afraid that you'll "become too good for them" or something crazy like that, that needs to be addressed ASAP.
In a healthy relationship, one partner does not carry the burden or weight of everything on their shoulders. In a new relationship, equally reaching out to each other and planning dates is a good sign. In a long term relationship, sharing expenses, household chores and still reaching out and checking in with each other throughout the day is #fire.
If there is a relationship trait that tends to get out of hand, it's competing against each other. “My partner did that, so I am going to this.” A little bit of friendly competition in regards to trivia night, Fitbit steps, and professional football teams is totally fine, but if you find yourself tallying up reasons to do something just because your partner did something else... you are headed down the wrong path.
Life gets busy and it is easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of every day responsibilities. Partners in a healthy relationship check in with each other from time to time, ask how each other’s days were and genuinely care about what activities went on each other’s days.
It is okay to not have some of the same political views, food interests and love for different sports teams as long as you can disagree respectfully. Some of the best couples are vegans and meat eaters or Ohio State and Michigan fans. It's all good as long as you're not berating and belittling your honey because they think differently then you.
Making sure you have some “me” time is definitely key for our own well-being, but in a relationship, making sure you are focused on each other and a relationship as whole and not making decisions to solely benefit yourself is a sure sign you are on the right path.
A good rule of thumb is before saying something to your partner that you know may hurt them is to ask yourself “would I say this to my mother or grandmother?” If your answer is “no” it is probably best to keep your unkind words to yourself. Relationships should be spent building each other up, not tearing each other down.
Laughter is the best medicine and fills you with so much happiness. Don’t laugh at each other, but by laughing together you are building a strong bond with each other and creating awesome memories. #TBT anyone?
Ask questions, but not in probing way because you don’t trust your partner, but because you genuinely care about their input and opinion. Sometimes a simple “how was your day? or “how do you feel about that?” can go a real long way in a healthy relationship.
A healthy relationship has both an emotion and physical connection. While a sexual energy is not the only contributing factor in a relationship, it is a definite added bonus. Being on the same level both emotional and physically with each other is a great indicator of a healthy relationship. *wink*
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