Okay, Who Gave Taylor Swift An Entire Deck Of Victim Cards?

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Taylor Swift, Our favorite small town country singer with a heart of gold and a history of humbleness, accidentally found herself featured on the cover of this month's Glamour.

Based on her expression on the cover, I can only assume that they caught her off guard with this impromptu photoshoot. That they stumbled upon her playing with kittens in a field full of tall flowers and long sunbeams. That she looked curiously at them and wondered why they could possibly want to feature little ole her on a big town magazine cover.

But feature her they did — and the quotes that came out of the interview are the epitome of why Taylor Swift bothers me so.

Let's go over some back story first. Taylor Swift dated professional asshole and casual singer John Mayer for a few months before she wrote the song Dear John.” The song's a tribute to a young girl who dated a horrible guy and Taylor Swift has a history of writing songs about her ex-boyfriends. So naturally everyone assumed she wrote the song “Dear John” about John Mayer.

Based on these facts, it's almost impossible to believe that Taylor Swift wouldn't know that people would connect the dots. However, in this Glamour interview, she feigns innocence when it comes to the song, as well as to John Mayer's reaction to it.

Glamour: You never identified who it was about, but John Mayer recently told Rolling Stone that it was him.
Taylor Swift: How presumptuous! I never disclose who my songs are about.
Glamour: He said he felt…
Taylor Swift: No! I don’t want to know, I don’t want to know.
Glamour: You don't? [Mayer told Rolling Stone that he was “humiliated” by the song, and that Swift's releasing it was “a really lousy thing for her to do.”]
Taylor Swift: I know it wasn't good, so I don’t want to know. I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can't handle.
Glamour: It would hurt too much to hear?
Taylor Swift: It's not that I'm this egomaniac and I don’t want to hear anything negative, because I do keep myself in check. But I've never developed that thick a skin. So I just kind of live a life, and I let all the gossip live somewhere else. If you go too far down the rabbit hole of what people think about you, it can change everything about who you are.

How wonderfully convenient for Taylor Swift that she can write an incredibly public song about an intimate relationship with someone and then not want to hear how it affected that someone. That she can pretend like her career is just her music, a diary entry and a web cam — and anything that results from it has nothing to do with her.

Sorry Taylor Swift. You're an international pop sensation. Everything you write will get analyzed. Especially when you give answers like this in response to questions about your personal life.

I don’t talk about my personal life in great detail. I write about it in my songs, and I feel like you can share enough about your life in your music to let people know what you're going through.

It's fine if Taylor Swift wants to write music about her personal life and relationships, but it's time she start owning up to that and acknowledging that  she's aware of her influence in the world. That she fully understands that while she may stay out of the gossip loop, these songs will be fodder for speculation and rumors for days. I don't think her songs coincidentally stir up drama, I believe it's all very purposeful and all part of a very smart marketing strategy.

Girls don't need perpetual victims as role models — they need strong, powerful woman who are proud to say that their hard work and commitment to their dreams led to them being named Billboard's top money earner in 2011.

Taylor Swift's a strong woman with amazing accomplishments and it's time she started acting like it.