Taylor Swift Still Confused Why Her Ex-Boyfriends Contact Her After She Writes Hit Songs About Them

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It wouldn't be another day if we didn't have another interview where Taylor Swift gets to feign naïveté. Where she gets to bat her eyelashes, talk hopelessly about love, sigh deeply and ask everyone, “why me?”

This week's portion of the neverending Taylor Swift Heartbreak Parade comes from an interview she did with Cosmopolitan UK.

On if her exes have contacted her about her songs: “Yes. Only the vocal ones though. The ones that love the sound of their own voice, whether it be an email or text message… or barrage of text messages. But it’s only happened a few times with the ones that really were choice human beings. The thing is, they’re just guessing that the song is about them. I put details in my songs but never first and last names, and I definitely don’t include social-security numbers!”

While I can accept that she writes about past relationships, I cannot accept the way she constantly minimizes the feelings of the men she writes about. It's okay to be hurt and it's okay to be sad and yes, it's even okay to put those emotions to music and make millions. That's the idea behind so many of our hit songs.

What's not okay is to continue to act surprised that these men reach out to her to talk about it in a mature way. And by mature, I don't mean that they're texting her congratuations for making money off of their failed relationship. I mean that they're taking the high road and handling their feelings privately. It would be just as easy for any of these guys to contact a media outlet and share their side of the story with the world.

But instead they're contacting her confidentially. Because maybe it's possible that her songs dredged up some old relationship shit that they'd possibly like to discuss. Or maybe they want closure. Either way, she's clearly reaching out to them. By putting details in her songs and not naming names, she's making sure that these guys know which lyrics are aimed at them

It's like when your ex makes his Facebook status an incredibly depressing song lyric from a concert you went to together. Everyone else sees it and everyone knows he's pissed off at someone. But you see it and you know it's directed at you.

So it's time for Taylor Swift to stop doing these interviews where she pokes fun at her ex's for contacting her when she's clearly provoking them. I'll accept the fact that this kind of songwriting is her schtick, but I refuse to accept the fact that any ex who reacts to these songs is some kind of horrible human being who deserves to be publicly shamed.

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