Ryan Reynolds Covers October’s GQ, Makes Us Swoon Again
Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively are continually the cutest couple on the planet and it’s almost annoying, but it’s really hard to hate on them because of how cute they are, separately and together. They’re pretty low-key, only coming out of the woodwork to promote their projects and the occasional red carpet appearance, and they live a nice quiet life in the suburbs with their daughter, James.
They also live in a town that neighbors mine (and the same town that my dad grew up in) and it irks me to no end that I’ve managed never to see them around. I really feel like I must step up my stalker game, but that’s an issue for another day.
Anyway, Ryan is on the cover of next month’s GQ, and aside from looking damn near perfect in the photos, he gives some seriously heartwarming quotes about being a new dad and his career.
On how he prepared for fatherhood, Ryan says:
“Picture advice being loaded into Super Soakers,” he says, grinning.“You’re running around all dry and fancy-free—you’re gonna be, like, drenched, The one piece of advice I would say is: Don’t listen to any advice. Because there’s nothing you can do to prepare for it.”
That seems fair, given what most people generally say about having kids. He also muses on whether he feels he’s doing a good job so far.
“I think I am, yeah. I can’t say I had an easy relationship with my father, and I can’t say my brothers did either, but I look at each of my older brothers, and they’re all fathers, and they’re all great fathers. So I had some good examples. But I don’t think you really necessarily need examples. You just try to not be a complete pile of shit and just be there for them. You know, I like it: I mean that in the heaviest context. I genuinely like it. I like being a father. I like having a daughter. I would like to have more kids. You know, it seems to suit me pretty well.”
“I’m surprised how patient I am with it. I feel like I could sometimes have a bit of a short fuse, but there’s just been this weirdly endless supply of patience. I have no problem waking up five times in the middle of the night and changing diapers, and as exhausted as you get, I have this stupid grin on my face all the time. And that’s not because I have a nanny or something like that. It’s just us right now, and I love it.”
But he admits it isn’t all happy moments, citing a time this spring when a “close friend” that he has known all his life was caught trying to shop photos of baby James around to the media. The couple are keeping photos of her private for now. And then he also got hit by a car driven by a paparazzo. But no sweat, says Ryan:
“The whole thing becomes so absurd that all you can do is laugh about it and just go, ‘This isn’t the real world. This isn’t how real things work.’ But it happens to be happening right now. And it will pass. And it does. It passes. It all passed.”
He admits, unlike most ~serious actors~ that his “end goal” really doesn’t have much to do with winning an Academy Award, a sentiment that is refreshing and rarely admitted to among A-list circles.
“You always want some semblance of stability. I think everyone does. Particularly if your endgame goal is to have a family and have some semblance of routine and normalcy. You know, it’s stability, I think. And that can be dangerous. Because it’s an illusion.”
“I really don’t have any immediate or long-term plans, actually, to be perfectly frank. I’ve sort of, in a great way, kind of surrendered to the idea that it’s just gonna be the way it’s gonna be. And I’m gonna work as hard as I’ve always worked. Even on movies that didn’t work, I’ve worked really, really hard. And all the people around you are working really, really hard. But sometimes that creates dysfunction. So you have a hundred and fifty people that are working very hard at something in different directions, and it creates something that doesn’t work.”
He’s not upset that Green Lantern, which was poised to be a huge success until it wasn’t, flopped.
So basically, what we’ve learned is that Ryan Reynolds is all of us (albeit much hotter, richer, and more famous): he has no idea what parenting is all about, he has no idea what his career end goals are, and admits sometimes he makes mistakes in his choices. Ryan, are you ever NOT perfect?
(Photo: Peggy Sirota/GQ Magazine)