Whether you're into dramas or comedies, every TV show has couples whose relationship we love to watch develop. We tune in week after week to see if these fictional couples will finally realize that they were meant to be and fall madly in love. We tend to romanticize relationships we see on TV because writers do such a good job at making them seem like the ideal way to love.
We often lust after relationships similar to what we see on TV. Aren't we all just trying to find the Jim to our Pam or the Chuck to our Blair? However, if we're being real, life isn't a TV show and some of TV couples are actually kind of terrible examples of what relationships should be. We decided to ruin everything you love with a little dose of reality by rounding up the terrible love lessons to be learned from your favorite TV shows.
1. You should drop everything for a relationship
Carrie Bradshaw makes questionable relationship decisions throughout Sex and the City, but dropping her entire life to move to Paris with a man who she didn't really love was probably the worst. As long as the destination is Paris, then it's totally cool to leave your job behind for a man.
2. Getting Married to Someone You Just Met is a Good Idea
In HBO's Girls, Jessa gets married to a man who she's known for a week. Jessa's free sprit makes impulsive decisions seem romantic. Surprise weddings seem kind of fun, so it's fine as long as you're willing to take a chance on love. Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom basically did the same thing and we all saw how that turned out.
3. Long-Lasting Relationships Start Out As Hook Ups Where One is Treating The Other Kinda Sh*tty
Hannah and Adam's relationship was largely based on sex. They start out as hook-up buddies (even though Adam blows her off and treats her like he doesn't give an eff about her), but somehow fall into a relationship. When problems arose, they just had sex to get over it. Sex is a good way to pretend you don't have problems... on TV, at least.
4. Ultimatums are the Best Way to Get Someone to Profess Their Love For You
Chuck and Blair have an obviously toxic relationship in Gossip Girl. Blair gives Chuck an ultimatum, saying that if he doesn't admit he loves her, then she will leave him. He ends up professing his love and they live happily ever after, which makes for a beautiful, trusting relationship... right?
5. Love Means Being Mean to the One You Love
Another one perfectly displayed by C & B! The two are actually really mean to each other, but they both treat one another like total crap so it's okay. As long as the meanness is reciprocated, then we can call it love... not abuse? This cliche is so destructive and needs to stop ASAP.
6. Living with Your Ex-Boyfriend is Not a Bad Idea
Nick and Jess have an up and down relationship in New Girl and somehow live together through it all. Living with your ex or even your crush seems like a wonderful way to break your own heart.
7. Don't Take "No" For an Answer When Someone Says They Don’t Want to be With You
Smidcht is infatuated with Cece from the start of New Girl. She continuously denies his advances, but he doesn't take her "no" as an answer and continues to pursue her. They end up getting married, so "no" actually means "keep trying?" Tbh, we see this all the time.
8. It’s No Big Deal that You are Your Ex-Boyfriend's Mistress
Our beloved Rory Gilmore came back into our lives in Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life as her ex-boyfriend Logan's mistress. It's made out to be no big deal. I mean, she did date him first and deny his proposal, so it's totally fine to cheat as long as you dated the person first. She also did this in Gilmore Girls when Dean was married to Lindsay. She's a serial offender... she needs to stop!
9. You Can Get Away With Lying to Your Love Interest About Who You Really Are
Dexter Morgan on Dexter was literally a serial killer (a moral one... but still!), yet somehow got away with never revealing his secret to multiple love interests. If he got away with that big of a lie, it's probably cool to not disclose small details about who you really are. We also see this in The Flash and every other superhero flick when the main character hides their true identity from their true love to "protect them." The person always eventually finds out and it always means major drama. Just be honest in the first place!
10. Being Aggressive and Tortured Makes For Being a Better Partner
The ~tortured~ soul is always so irresistible. The Vampire Diaries' Damon Salvatore was the epitome of an aggressive man who was terrible to everyone except the woman he loved. Being someone's "one and only" is great because why would you even need anyone else? This is sarcasm. Usually, that is a symptom of an abusive relationship.
11. Total Opposites Attract
April and Andy were adorable but completely different. The blind optimist and perpetual pessimist just don't butt heads, but rather bring out the best in one another and never find the other annoying at all... as if!
12. Being a Parent Doesn't Really Have to Change Your Life That Much
Friends was a '90s to 2000s classic but looking back, some things about the show are majorly problematic. Ross has a baby with Carol (his lesbian ex-wife) in season one (played by Dylan and Cole Sprouse) but we see very little of him throughout the series — especially in the later seasons. A majority of the episodes in the series, Ben isn't even mentioned! Yet Ross isn't portrayed as a deadbeat dad because whenever Ben comes around, he's clearly a ~great dad.~ Later, when Ross and Rachel have a daughter, she's confusingly absent from so many scenes and strikingly silent when she is in a scene just sitting in her baby carriage. Newsflash: babies cry a lot and while they're a blessing, you can't have the same life as you did before.
13. It’s Totally Cool to Date Your Teacher
Aria and Ezra had a super hot, secretive relationship on Pretty Little Liars. Oh yeah, and he was her teacher. However, it's totally cool because they really loved and cared for each other.
14. And If You're a Teacher, It's Totally Cool and Not Creepy At All to Date Your Student... As Long as You're Objectively Hot
We get the appeal because Ezra wasn't a creepy old man, he was a hot 20-something cool guy. It wasn't weird at all because he was attractive and Aria was into it. Same thing in Riverdale, Ms. Grundy was hot (and female) so her getting it on with her underage student was NBD.
15. Cheating Multiple Times on Your S.O. Won't Permanently Ruin Your Relationship
Crosby cheated on Jasmine after starting a relationship with her because she was the mother of his child that he didn't know he had. They get married and live happily ever after, so if you too cheat on the mother of your children, then you'll probably still end up together. Even the grandparents deal with some infidelity issues and make it work. Having affairs are normal, guys! It's fine if you do it and your partner will eventually get over it, so no worries!
16. Changing Someone to Make Them Who You Want Them to Be Will Always Work Out for the Best
Barney is mostly insufferable during most of How I Met Your Mother. He likes Robin and she doesn't consider him until he changes his "womanizing" ways. Changing someone to make the who you want them to be is a good start to a relationship and the person totally isn't going to resent you later on ... NOT!
17. A Healthy Relationship Can Be Formed Even If You Screw Over Your Partner Many Times
This one from Orange is the New Black, Alex and Piper begin a new relationship in prison after Alex used Piper to smuggle drugs and both of them get locked up for it. She also rats out her former boo in order to cut a sick legal deal with her prison sentence. Despite all that, they're so cute in prison together! It's fine! As long as you end up in prison (happily) together, it's okay if your partner puts you in some serious danger and screws you over multiple times.
18. Having an Affair with Your BFF's Boyfriend is Something She'll Be Okay With As Long As You're Meant to Be With Him
Lucas and Peyton have an affair while he is dating her best friend Brooke on One Tree Hill. But they were totally meant to be together and end up married, so Brooke eventually is okay with it because ya can't fight true love. Basically, going behind your BFF's back and boning her boyfriend will totally end up in your favor as long as you're smart about it and apologize and stuff.
19. It’s Okay to Have a Huge Crush on Someone Who's Engaged Because You Still Might End Up Together
Pam was engaged to another man during the beginning of The Office, but that didn't stop Jim from fawning over her and eventually professing his love for her despite her and Roy being ~betrothed~. A little kiss is only cheating a little bit and they end up together in the end, so all's well that ends well...?
20. Yes, It's a Good Idea to Have a Relationship with a Coworker
Jim and Pam aren't the only office relationship in The Office. Angela dates Andy and then marries Dwight. Michael marries Holly, who works in HR. Andy and Erin are meant to be, but she dates some others in the office, too. It's all very incestuous, but they love each other! It doesn't matter if the whole office dates one another as long as they're in ~love~. Everyone gets their work done despite all the drama! It's so chill.
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