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Elisa Says…

It's really hard when you're trying to be nice to someone and get to know them, but they want nothing to do with you. Whether they're related, or just someone you've been trying to charm, you've gotta remember that you can't force a friendship. You don't always have instant chemistry with people. You need to give time time. Constantly bugging them isn't going to entice them -- it's just gonna make them want to swat at you. And if that person is anything like Meredith (detached with commitment issues), it'll take that ill will one step further by scaring them away and deeming you a stalker. Let it happen naturally -- the best relationships form that way.

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