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"My boyfriend's ex is part of the family."

You Said:
"Before you freak out, my boyfriend didn’t date an actual blood relative or anything, just his sister-in-law’s cousin. But ever since they broke up, the girl is at every family event (even when her own fam isn’t there!) She always ends up cornering my guy when I’m not looking, but I come off as a jealous jerk when I don’t act nice around her. I can’t handle it!"

We Say:
Before we get into some sisterly words of wisdom, thank your lucky stars your BF wasn’t involved in some real cousin-lovin! Ha! That’s advice for another S.O.S.

As the holidays heat up, chances are you’re going to have to see this ex-girlie again and again. We can totally relate. One of our old boyfriend’s exes was a best friend, so she was always hanging out. Annoying!

Here’s what we’d do: As much as is feels great to be a B to the ex at the time, you’re not going to win any points from your BF or his family. Tragically you kinda have to suck it up and play nice with the girl. Show her that you’re not intimidated by her history with your guy.

As for your BF, he should make you feel like a VIP member of his family, especially when the ex is around. Tell him that you’re going to be very friendly to his ex, so it’s not awkward for anyone, but he needs to do his part and make you super comfortable at events. After the girl sees you in action a few times, we bet she’ll remove herself from most family festivities.

You Say!