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"My boss keeps hitting on me!"

You Said:
"I've been working at a coffee shop for the past year. I love working there because I've met some great people and the pay is really good. Recently, my boss quit and was replaced by a new guy. He's really hot, and he's only eight years older than me. I've been crushing on him since day one, and I got really excited when he flirting with me. But for the past few weeks, his flirting has turned pretty aggressive. He grabs my butt when he walks by, tells me how sexy I am, and says that we should hook up. One day, he even tried to kiss me in the back room! I don't want to report him because I'm afraid I'll lose my job or look like a prude, but it makes me really uncomfortable. What should I do?"

We Say:
First off, what your boss is doing is not only wrong, but it's also completely illegal -- it's sexual harassment. This guy is taking advantage of you because you're young and beneath him, and he's taken it way too far. You have to tell someone what's going on, whether it's your parents or your school counselor. With their help and support, you can take this jerk head on. First, you have to tell him to stop harassing you. He'll likely deny it, but you have to show that you aren't interested in his inappropriate behavior. Your boss cannot fire you for confronting him about feeling harassed. (It's illegal!) However, proving sexual harassment can be a tricky thing. Think about when he's made sexual advances to you: Has anyone else been around to hear him say sexual things to you? Has anyone seen him touch you inappropriately? Having these witnesses will really help you out should you need to take legal action against him, or in case your company investigates the matter further. All of this can be scary and intimidating, but just remember that you don't deserve to be sexually harassed and that what your boss is doing is unprofessional, unethical, inappropriate, and illegal. If you don't stop him, he could do this to other girls, too.

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