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My boyfriend is like my best friend, but he's way too overprotective. When I want to go out with my friends, he gets really mad and lectures me about why I shouldn't go. It's annoying, and sometimes I feel like I have to ask permission to do things. I've already told him it bothers me, but he just doesn't get it. What should I do?

If your boyfriend is trying to keep you from your friends, it's not just "annoying," it's pretty much abusive. You should never feel like you have to ask his permission to have a normal social life. He's supposed to treat you as an equal, but it sounds like he wants to control you completely -- which, btw, is seriously unhealthy.


Simply telling him you're bothered won't be enough with this guy. Even though I don't really advise it, if you want to try and work it out, you've got to understand why he's so possessive. Has he been cheated on in the past? If so, make him realize you're not going to do that to him. Is this jealous act something that began recently? Then talk to him about what caused it, and ask him if there was something you could do to make him feel more secure. But if this behavior is just part of his personality, there's nothing you can do. No matter how you try to fix it, this guy won't change his ways.


Trust is the most important part of any relationship, and if he can't figure that out quickly, you need to move on. His major jealousy issues might only seem like an inconvenience now, but watch out because it's the first step to feeling more like an inmate than a girlfriend.

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