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Meet the Wise Guy. He’s got advice to give and questions to answer, so send in any and all problems concerning the opposite sex. What makes him so qualified? He’s been a boy his whole life, so he knows exactly what’s going through your crush, boyfriend, or best-guy-friend’s dumbhead. Ask him!


"Help! I have all these guy friends, and we hang out a bunch, but none of them will actually ask me out or take things a step further. Any hints I can send their way?"

I gotta admit, lady, this sounds a little weird. I could understand if there was one particular guy in your boy-crew that you feel all swoony about, but you’re upset that none of them will make a move? True, the lines can get blurred with guy-girl buddies, but you have to respect the fact that friend relationships should generally be kept separate from romantic relationships. You’ve probably heard this before, but if you try to turn a friend into a boyfriend, you could wind up losing your pal forever. It could also cause problems between the guys themselves. What if you went after one of your friends, and another one became jealous because he secretly likes you?


Still, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you’ve always been attracted to these dudes, but for some reason they’ve always seen you as “one of the guys,” or worse yet, “like a sister.” Maybe you were too buddy-buddy with them at first when you should have been flirty-flirty. Luckily, it’s very easy to figure out if a guy is into you. First, get some alone time with the guy-friend you like best -- of course none of them would make a move if you’ve only been hanging out in groups. Make it clear to this guy that you want to hang out with only him, and whatever you end up doing together, make sure to work in some physical contact and subtle references to how cute you think he is. In other words, remind him you’re a girl. If he doesn’t return the signals, it wasn’t meant to be, so pull back and just enjoy the friendship for what it is.

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