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Meet the Wise Guy. He’s got advice to give and questions to answer, so send in any and all problems concerning the opposite sex. What makes him so qualified? He’s been a boy his whole life, so he knows exactly what’s going through your crush, boyfriend, or best-guy-friend’s dumbhead. Ask him!


"I met this guy on the basketball team when my squad started cheering at all their games. I really like him and we'd make a totally amazing couple, except for one thing: He's a year older than me, and all the older girls on the squad like him! I want all those girls to be friends with me, but I’d have to end things with this guy. Help me!"

This is definitely a tricky sitch, but staying away from someone you’d like to date because of how other people would react is almost always a coward’s move. Do you think that these older girls will automatically start liking you if you cut things off with this guy? I know you want to get in good with them, but trying to gain their respect by caving is a bad idea -- you’ll become their lapdog, not their friend, so don’t make it a habit. Now obviously, if this guy’s an ex-boyfriend of one of the girls, it would be different (you’d want to keep your distance out of respect), but if he’s just someone that all the girls like, you don’t have to feel bad that he chose you. Heck, you should be throwing a party.


Throughout your whole life, people will be jealous of you because of who you’re dating -- sometimes even your best friends. But if their jealousy is so intense that they hate you because of it, forget ‘em. You don’t need their approval. I know that sounds like something your Mom would say (“It doesn’t sound like they’re your real friends!”), but really, you should be more concerned about your own happiness than the dirty looks from a few jealous girls. So work just as hard as those older cheerleaders, make a genuine effort to befriend them, be strong and confident, and never rub your romantic conquest in their face. I promise you’ll win most of them over. The rest can just keep on hatin’…

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