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My BF and I have been dating for six months. We fooled around, but nothing even close to sex. On our anniversary, he tried to get me to sleep with him, but I said no. It's not that I don't love him -- I just didn't feel ready. Now, he's acting all distant. What should I do? Was he just using me?

When guys want sex and don’t get it, we throw tantrums. It’s pathetic — I’ve even gone as far as stamping my feet and holding my breath. Mature, I know. Some guys express their frustration by acting distant or less affectionate. It doesn’t necessarily mean that your boyfriend is using you. He might really love you, actually. But the problem is, he’s obsessed with this sex thing now -- as all young guys are. He might feel personally rejected by the fact that you won’t sleep with him (that fragile male ego — if you don’t know about it yet, oh boy, are you in for a treat!)


So this is what you need to do: Talk to him. Tell him that you care about him a lot, but are not ready to sleep with him, and you definitely don’t want to lose him over it. Ask him if he can deal with being in a relationship without sex, or would rather not be in a relationship at all. If he’s genuinely into you, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about. If not, then he’s like a lot of guys his age: a horny jackass whose hormones are clouding his judgment. And if that's the case, ditch him immediately. I hate to be a Danny Downer, but if he can’t support your decision, he doesn’t respect you enough to deserve you. The bottom line is, you should never let your boyfriend pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. Good luck convincing your BF there’s more to life than sex. Just be patient about the feet-stamping…

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